Relationship: How to Handle Failure in a Relationship

HANDLING FAILURE IN A RELATIONSHIP

Have you failed before or you have just experienced failure in a relationship ?

Remember, failure is not new to man and I don’t think failure is all together new to you either.

You have failed many times before now. Don’t make this failure seem special. Don’t treat this failure as if it’s a VIP – treat it as a ‘’common failure’’ no matter how bad it may look or seem. No matter how tough it may seem now, please treat this failure as a ‘’common failure’’ not as a VIP failure.

The time will always come when you will look back and smile at the failures of yesterday.

Remember, the sweetest success stories are mostly those with pockets/pieces of failures here and there.

WHY DID THE RELATIONSHIP FAIL ?

You gave it your best… but it still failed.

You endured your partner…… but it still failed.

You endured, suffered or bore some things and even made some sacrifices just to keep the relationship….. yet, it still failed.

Your partner complained about what you did not do and did not even show enough appreciation for the things you did.

Or, no, you were the one complaining about everything.

Like I said at the beginning of this discuss, failure in relationship is not new and it is bound to happen again and again if we repeat the same mistakes again.

WHAT NEXT ?

Do I want this relationship back or IT IS OVER !

Should I begin another relationship or I should just give myself a break ?

What lessons have I learnt from this failed relationship that can help me mange future relationship ?

Whatever the thoughts running in your mind now, remember, only the living can solve problems, only the living can talk about handling relationships.

It is only when you are in the right frame of mind that you can handle a relationship issue or any issue for that matter.

Therefore, first thing first !!!

ü Don’t condemn yourself – no mater what you did wrongly in that failed relationship or no matter what you did not do, first encourage yourself.

ü Encourage yourself that you have tried to handle the relationship to the best of your knowledge and ability. After all, you couldn’t have done more than what you know.

ü Nothing just happens. Everything happens for a reason, at least to make us better experienced and more matured to handle a more serious future relationship.

ü The failures of yesterday ( or today ) are the fortifications for tomorrow. How would you have walked if you never fell down while attempting to take those first steps as a baby ?

Don’t try to keep things to yourself to the point of explosion – NO, NO.

Talk to someone, go for counselling, not from your friends in the same boat, not from those that have been waiting for your relationship to fail.

Seek counsel from someone matured and confidential.

The best / first person to talk to in situations like this is your Maker. No matter your relationship with God, He is always open to hear you when you call upon Him in times of trouble.

You can also talk to your parents, they are never envious of your success in your relationship. They will always give you wise counsel.

Read books on relationship.

Perhaps the relationship failed because you were not prepared for it.

This may not be the last relationship you will be into, so, pick up yourself, arise from the failure and make yourself a better person.

Read books on relationship, books written by Godly men and women, you will learn how not to fail and how to handle future relationship. Nobody likes to fail.

You definitely can make a good relationship.

You can make it work. Failure should not be a stumbling block in your relationship, rather it should be a stepping stone or a learning for a better relationship.

Don’t rush into a new relationship. Put the failure behind you now, but don’t rush into another relationship immediately just because you want to overcome the present hurt.

Have you learnt from your mistakes ? Learn and prepare yourself for  A BETTER YOU in the next relationship whenever it happens.

The Ultimate Relationship: You can repair this relationship or make the next relationship the ultimate one that will lead to that MARRIAGE that will last forever.

God bless you.

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No matter what the case may be, you can still get back your life.